(Power) vs Love

No one’s ever given up power for love.

That puts duty before love. 

… and by extension, work/career must come first. What else is duty?


It is important to discuss what we are reaching for.

Lend me your imagination here:

It is as if a man and a woman danced together formally. In such an instance, the man leads.

If there were crowns involved, and the woman were to to take the man’s crown as he wore it and knelt facing away from her, that is, behind his back, she would put it on, he would rise and behold her as she faced away and donned the crown on her own head with much personal satisfaction. She has taken power. If for an instant.

In another dance involving a crown, the woman would kneel before the man and he would bestow it upon her, giving her power instead of her taking it.

In yet another, the man/woman dances alone with their crown.

Better yet, they both wear their own crowns and once again the man leads.

The point is: a man’s duty to lead goes beyond his obligations to power, a woman’s duty just the same. But without love…

Perhaps a better example is required.

One’s power is their ability to carry out their duty. 

Duty to self and duty to another. 

Duty to the world.

To sister.

To brother. 

Duty to home and duty to neighbor. 

Duty during battle and duty at labor.

Love itself is not a duty. It is a feeling, however strong, that has never matched ambition, intention, or devotion. Especially when that devotion is to a country.

It is noble to choose one’s duty over one’s heart. This is how you attain things that one cannot truly live without.

But one should not chase love through their duty or through their power. For surely love will bring you weakness and downfall should it never arrive, or worse; leave you.

Love is fleeting, complicated, and with a well known shelf life if commitments are made to the wrong individual or circumstances deteriorate.

Duty outlasts love. This alone gives it all the power that duty, or you, will ever need.

Be Well.

Secrets of Goodness and Skill

Putting things in its place means when your teammate gets the ball, it becomes an assist because you knew who would score. It takes intelligence to be good. Smart people know where to give what. That’s the secret to skill.

Goodness does not come at a price. It comes from experience. Those people who give cigarettes to those who request one, most of the time know what it’s like to need one, not have one, and be rejected by everyone you ask. It’s called position recognition. Or to those with study in the field: empathy. 

Goodness isn’t chastity or purity or cleanliness. That qualifies as angelic or godly. Mortals can only try but fail at such goals, though intentions be well placed. 

Another godly quality: compassion. This, we mortals can succeed at. This we mortals can achieve: to know our allies as well as our enemies because all parties are human. Which means they share universal feelings like anger, fear, disgust, happiness, surprise, and contempt (via Ekman- paulekman.com). Motivations like love, ambition, jealousy, justice, objective, or in some cases, mere goal.

You cannot be good without the intelligence to know where thing go, and the Heart to give to that which is in need. How do you know who or what is in need? You will feel it. We feel drawn, attracted, led to people, places, and things that deserve what we have more than we do. The decision to actually sacrifice our time with what is needed, is what makes for decency, goodness, and respected action.

So you don’t receive recognition. Big whoop. The greatest people we celebrate didn’t know recognition while they lived. They died having given, because the world itself, at the time, didn’t know that they had been given exactly what they needed in order to make their ideals a reality.  Not the usual godly ideals, but the mortal ideals: Humanity, compassion, goodness, love, duty, belonging.

Do good. Be good. Promote Goodness.

Who knows, according to theories about karma, it could come back to you in time.

Be well.